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Why I hate myself and other self destructive candy bits.

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Over the past summer I've changed doctors and there was a change in my medication. The upside is that I'm really feeling better these days. I don't have to take sleeping pills anymore. And as long as I schedule days of rest and periodic down time, the rest of my time at work and at home has turned into something productive at last. Things are looking up.

The downside to all of this positivity is that I'm falling back into old habits. It's 10 'til midnight, and I just spent several hours pulling malware off a computer.

It wasn't my computer.

It wasn't one of the computers in one of my sport areas.

It wasn't a critical need by said user.

But, I told a co-worker who was stressed out today that I would drop by and check in on the machine before I went home.

And that right there is where I went wrong. I know malware removal is a long pain in the ass. If it's something that has been around forever then a quick run of some tools and a virus scan and poof, it's gone. But it rarely is that. I should have just given my co-worker some links to some sites and let him learn the way I did. A looooooooooong frustrating game of whack-a-file with a sprinkle of registry edits and hidden files. But, no, I want to be the good guy. I want to help everyone. But when I get sucked into a problem I get tunnel vision until I'm done.

After spending several hours identifying what particular slimy piece of code I was dealing with I then was able to run the right tools, identify the right files to remove and checked the registry. Voila! Sites, toolbars and other items were no longer in Russian. VICTORY! Chrome is still corrupted a bit, it takes forever to load, and wants to log directly into a profile. But, I had won. A major problem was removed, and the minor one could be fixed at a later time by my co-worker. Time to go home.

As I go to leave, an assistant of the user was in her office working on uploading a video of the nights match to their servers. I stopped and updated her on the status of the user's computer.

And then comes the reward? No, not a thanks, not a great, not anything like that. What I get instead is "That's not going to work. We need Chrome to work." Oooookaaaaaaay.

I pause, 'but Firefox and IE are working just fine' - "No, the site we use HAS to be used in Chrome. <insert users name here> is going to be mad that that is not working tomorrow."

Cue *put head through wall* scene. In my mind at least. In reality I think I said the F word under my breath.

I should have known that my best will never be good enough. I work in an athletics department with type A personality people who like to live out their dreams of being this guy (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tD4q3leE5Uw) with better pay and more comfortable uniforms.

Tonight, I sacrificed my dinner, my workout, my personal time, my study time, my social time, my relaxation time - to be told I had basically accomplished nothing. The user was mad yesterday, the user was mad today and the user will be mad tomorrow. My sacrifice of my time meant nothing. Yay.

Which brings me to why I hate myself. I hate that I believe in my core that if I solve people's problems then my life has meaning. And because of that belief I willingly put other people's wants before my needs. Not only is that a completely fucked up belief, it's also one that could lead to my death.

If I don't eat on a schedule, I get sick.
If I don't sleep on a schedule, I get sick.
If I don't exercise daily, I get sick.
If I don't relax and schedule time to chill, I get sick.

And it's scary when I get sick. The sickness creeps up on me. A little symptom here, a bit of a pain there... and then one day I just won't exist anymore.

And now the hard part. How the hell do I remind myself of how I am feeling right now at this moment so that next time I feel the urge to do that one extra thing before I go home for the day, or finish up that one last problem, that I remember the absolute self worthless feeling I have about myself right now for wasting hours on something that ultimately didn't need to be solved right away.

pfft - time to go home, time to take meds, time to sleep.

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  1. Lilaena De'Ville's Avatar
    Your co-workers sound like self-involved dicks. Have you read the Spoon Theory? http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/wp...-spoon-theory/ If the people you are working with don't know you're sick then they'll continue to do stuff like this. I'm not saying you need to stand up and tell everyone your personal stuff, but if you haven't let your boss know at least the basics of "if I don't get enough rest I'll die" you really should. You only have so many spoons, after all.

    Get a friend to keep you accountable for taking care of yourself. Before you accept a job that you know isn't that important (or that you know will mess up your schedule), tell yourself to text or call that friend, with the understanding that the friend will tell you you're being silly and give you permission to tell the other person no, or 'not now.' Your life has meaning beyond what other people can squeeze out of you!
  2. Mu Satach's Avatar
    Thanks. that is an excellent article. I can relate to a lot of it. Thankfully I don't have to think about a daily spoon count on a day to day basis all the time. But I'm very aware of them and their limited supply.

    I have been a bit more upfront with my boss when I need to take time off of work for myself. In fact next week I'm taking 4 days off to take care of myself a bit. Another mentor told me I should apply for FMLA - that way if things really take a turn for the worse for a while I can leave for an extended period of time and still have a job.

    In other news about a month after I posted this my co-worker just up and quit on us.
    He left us for a job that was more to his liking and better pay. Was happy for him, but also miffed he didn't really give my boss a full 2 week notice. Took us about a month to get a new guy, a much better guy. Tech head & sports fanatic so this job is a dream job for him and he's fun and knowledge able to work with.

    AND right after we had hired the new guy - literally the guys first day on the job I found out the other guy was laid off from his new job. Can't help but wonder if he exaggerated his skills when hired, cause it seems weird to get canned so quickly. Anyway. Kinda nice to not have to babysit and hand hold my co-worker. Plus, I'm even picking up a few new tricks from him.
  3. Mu Satach's Avatar
    hmmm - was rereading my post, a bit melodramatic, but I was upset when I wrote it. Also, I keep trying to remind myself to take my illness seriously as the mortality rate (depending on what report you read) is around 1 in 5 or approx. 28% - 30% out of 1000. So that "I'll die" came out a bit too much. Sneaky little disease, gives me the illusion most of the time that I'm perfectly fine. =P